The same fight, over and over, isn't a communication problem.
What's undermining your connection isn't between you. It's within you.
Watch this 5-minute video first.
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Education and coaching, not therapy. Not for crisis, domestic violence, severe addiction or an active affair.
Or take the 60-second quiz“After years of trying to work through things, this was the first time I was able to move past patterns I couldn't break before.”
Does this sound familiar?
- Small things turn into big fights.
- One of us pushes to be heard, the other goes quiet.
- We love each other, but we feel like roommates.
- We understand the pattern, and it still keeps happening.
You're not alone, and it doesn't mean something is wrong with either of you.
My husband and I knew we had a negative cycle we would often fall into. But we lacked the tools and knowledge to change it. This program has given us hope and empowerment with positive models to follow. I feel like we are finally discovering the underlying issues and coming together.
You've read the books.
You've tried the scripts, the date nights, the "I feel" statements. Some of it worked for a while. Then the same fight showed up in a different outfit.
One of you is trying harder.
Maybe you're the one who reads the books and books the sessions. That's normal, and it isn't a dead end. Real change can start with one person.
It isn't a "you" or "them" problem.
It feels like something takes over before either of you decides to react. That's usually because it isn't a conscious choice in the moment.
It didn't start with you.
A lot of what shows up in a relationship was written somewhere else first. Old wounds, old survival patterns, things you inherited long before you met your partner.
Work on the relationship without touching that underlying material and it tends to help for a little while, then quietly wear off.
Within -- the piece that's different
Led by Alissa
The individual work: working with the part within each person that keeps the same reaction going, including old patterns and inherited beliefs about closeness.
Between
Led by Dr. Carol
The relationship work: attachment patterns, the cycle that gets you both stuck, and skills that hold up mid-conflict instead of evaporating the moment things get tense.
Most approaches only ever touch Between. Healing Together works Within at the same time, and that's usually the piece that was actually missing.
I would encourage others to attend this program even though it is a couple’s workshop you really get in touch with your own personal feelings and needs. That in turn makes your relationship strong. It brings purpose to arguments and conversations rather than wasting time and getting no resolution.
Dr. Carol and Alissa
Two different kinds of training, aimed at the same goal: helping you feel like yourselves again, together.
Dr. Carol Conrad
Licensed Psychologist & Certified EFT Therapist
Nearly three decades helping couples build genuine security and move out of the patterns that keep them stuck. Carol leads the Between side of the work.
Alissa Wakefield
Emotional Resolution Coach
Focused on the Within side, helping each partner with the old protective patterns that keep getting triggered long after the moment that caused them.
If you're the only one who's ready
You can start now. Your partner can join when they're ready.
Most people who join us start alone, and that's genuinely fine. A relationship is a system. When one person changes how they show up, the other person feels it.
If someone were to attend this program I would say–Hang in there, this is vulnerable, sometimes terrifying work–and you are okay. Going through it is the path to an awesome, beautiful place.
Start here
The Relationship Workshop
A live, guided workshop built around the Between and the Within -- the piece that makes this different from a communication workshop.
- A live group workshop led by Dr. Carol and Alissa, online, about 75 minutes
- Camera, microphone, and sharing are all optional. Plenty of people just watch, and that's completely fine
- Time at the end for your own questions
- One ticket, one time, with no subscription
One-time · Camera optional · Your partner can join when ready
What to expect
You'll join a small live group and get guided through real, Within-focused work with Alissa. There's no requirement to talk, turn your camera on, or share anything.
Registration is one-time. This is education and coaching, not therapy or a crisis service. See our promise below before you register.
How it works
- 1
Get your ticket
One live workshop with Dr. Carol and Alissa.
- 2
Join from home
Camera, mic, and sharing are all optional.
- 3
Notice what shifts
There's time at the end for your questions.
What people say about the Within work
“When we started, our relationship was in serious trouble. As we addressed the deeper patterns driving our reactions, everything began to change. We are now more connected than we've ever been.”
“I've carried things from my past for many years. Alissa helped me name what I was feeling and understand that the patterns I'd built could change. I feel significant changes — emotionally, mentally, and physically.”
“This work created the kind of deep and lasting change I had been looking for, for years.”
Questions people usually have
Is this therapy?
No. Healing Together is education and coaching, not psychotherapy, and it isn't a replacement for therapy. Dr. Carol is a licensed psychologist, but inside this program she and Alissa are working with you as coaches and educators, not as your treating clinicians.
What if my partner isn't ready to join?
Start on your own (most people do), and your partner can join whenever they're ready. A relationship is a system, so change on your side tends to be felt on theirs.
Do I have to be on camera or share anything?
No. Camera, microphone, and participation are entirely optional. Plenty of people join, listen, and do the internal work quietly, and that counts too.
Is this a subscription?
No. The Relationship Workshop is one live session, with a one-time ticket. There's nothing to cancel.
What if it isn't the right fit once I'm there?
Camera, microphone and sharing are all optional, and you can leave whenever you like. The workshop is education and coaching, and the answer below tells you who it isn't for, so you can check before you buy a ticket.
Who is this not a good fit for?
Healing Together isn't appropriate for a relationship currently in crisis, or where there's domestic violence, severe addiction, or an active affair. Those situations need dedicated, in-person professional support first. Please reach out to a licensed therapist or crisis service instead.
What does the Relationship Workshop cost?
The ticket is $27, one time. There is an optional VIP hour for $47 more, added at checkout.
The Relationship Workshop
$27
One live workshop. One-time ticket. Nothing to cancel.
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Even if your partner isn't ready.
Even if you've tried counseling before.
Even if you'd rather just listen.
In couples' own words
From clients of Dr. Carol's Coaching Program, in their own words.
“This program gave us some tools/language to use to help us heal our relationship. It was a safe space for my spouse to open up and continue our journey into our emotions and our ‘why’.”
“We were able to recognize the huge impact connection to our spouse has on our well-being. It motivates me to increase my commitment to connect with my wife. To look inside each other and share what we find.”
“I would love everyone I know to come and experience this workshop with Dr. Conrad!”
“It was great to gain the tools and hear and address emotions and feelings without being the one to engage it”
“We feel we have gotten the key to unlock our long-term mis-communication”
“This program really opened my eyes to what the core of the problems were and how to identify the issue and work it out”
“We’ve been married 10.5 years and came to this program at the end of our rope. We’re feeling connected and renewed in a long time! We are hopeful!!”
“This program helped us to reconnect and finally have real conversations that have helped us to really heal.”
“We discovered raw moments from the past, some greater than 20 years old, that have been burrowed deep under the many sediment layers of life and yet remain powerful influences in our relationship.”
“We have been seeing a counselor for over 18 months and while much progress has been made through our weekly visits, it was hard to see the whole picture. The workshop gave us the entire roadmap to our relationship issues and has made a huge difference!”
“My wife and I have been married 50 years, and still had some huge breakthroughs in understanding and being able to work on the emotions that are the underlying reasons for our fights.”
“If you are willing to be open, this program will change your relationship for the better!”
“Finally we got to the core of our devastating cycle, and I have hope!”
“The workshop really made it easier to have the tough conversations because it was an exercise. The videos really showed how what we are going through is really normal.”
“I wish my husband and I took this workshop when we were newlyweds!”
“This program was very helpful in learning how to communicate honestly and openly. Honesty and softness in communicating will be helpful for us!”
“Regardless if a couple has been married for 35 years or just 3 months, this program opens avenues for healthy communication!”
“This program opened up the reality of emotions. I realized the importance of emotion as the music in the background of our dance, I thoroughly appreciated the empathetic concern and quality of connection I felt with my boyfriend that the workshop encouraged.”
“If someone were to attend this program I would say–Hang in there, this is vulnerable, sometimes terrifying work–and you are okay. Going through it is the path to an awesome, beautiful place.”
“I am confident this is the beginning of a life-changing experience after this program for us as a couple and as individuals.”
“In order to fix a problem, you have to understand the problem. This program helps you identify and understand the problems so you can fix them!”
“This program was extremely helpful, and at times painful. We were able to take a lot of content home with us, and we will continue to process and work through it.”
“I have more tools from this program to address issues, which makes me more hopeful.”
“My husband and I knew we had a negative cycle we would often fall into. But we lacked the tools and knowledge to change it. This program has given us hope and empowerment with positive models to follow. I feel like we are finally discovering the underlying issues and coming together.”
“I think this program was an amazing source of tools to help with the broken down line of communication in our marriage.”
“I feel like so many people I know could benefit from this program. Connection is so important and Dr. Conrad taught us how to work out fears and raw spots to get to connection.”
“This program is helpful whether you’ve been married for months or many years. If you are on the rocks or looking to enhance your connection and bond, I can’t recommend this program enough!”
“This isn’t just for one to learn to live with their partner, it’s for couples to learn to be one and set the goal to achieve connection together!”
“I would encourage others to attend this program even though it is a couple’s workshop you really get in touch with your own personal feelings and needs. That in turn makes your relationship strong. It brings purpose to arguments and conversations rather than wasting time and getting no resolution.”
“Anytime you put effort and energy into your marriage it is beneficial, but when you are able to truly understand how your emotions speak to you and what you actually need, you’re able to find healthy communication. This program helped us find healthier ways to communicate by understanding in a deeper context.”
“This program helped me identify things to work on in our ongoing couples therapy. It also helped me see success which gives me hope.”
“This program made me realize that I need to be more supportive and emotionally involved in our relationship!”
“I think for me as a man, we tend to act tough–but with all those layers and layers of denial, the truth is we do need love, understanding, and to be heard about our fear and our emotions. I would encourage all couples to try this program, it made a difference!”
“This program gave us a place to grow from and be more aware of our negative cycle and tools to stop it. It was helpful to identify the signals we send each other.”
“I have realized that couple relationships are much more complex than I would have imagined! I have a long ways to go and I’m okay with that–thank you for an excellent program to help me!”
“This program helped me realize and acknowledge my primal driving destructive loop that I continuously loop through with every woman in my life!”
“This program provided us an opportunity to talk about really important issues that we probably wouldn’t have discussed on our own! It provided us some tools to work through problems in our relationship.”
“This was the best thing we could have done for our relationship. I wish we had done it years ago. It is a MUST for couples!”
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